My wife and I were ministering in South Korea recently.
At one of the train subways, she spotted a huge billboard of a K-Pop Star and got all good-humoredly excited about him.
She started “fussing” and insisting we take a photo with him, or at least, the billboard. I obliged. Of course, that’s a lighthearted experience of fussing or fretting over someone.
Psalm 37:1 speaks of a more dangerous kind. “Fret not because of evil doers; be not envious because of wrongdoers”.
This psalm by David was written to express his life-and-death struggle against his enemies.
Fretting drains us mentally, emotionally and in every way. Why? Because we are trying to do something humanly impossible – to be omniscient by “trying to get into someone’s head”! Only God can do that.
A wife suspected her husband of having an affair. You could say her every waking and idle moment she spent contemplating this sad possibility.
In short, she was driven to distraction pondering her husband’s possible infidelity. In all likelihood, if this obsession fested unchecked, she will not merely be distracted but be destroyed by this fretting.
So what’s the cure or remedy for destructive fretting?
V5-7: “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will act … Be still before the Lord; Wait patiently for him.”
The panacea to fretting – trying to work out what’s happening in fickle human hearts – is to trust what is happening in God’s faithful good-heartedness towards us.
The ultimate expression of God’s good-heartedness to us is his gift of the Lord Jesus Christ to rescue us from our crippling autonomy and self-seeking control of life.
We may not have real enemies like David’s real experience. But we all suffer real fretting when we try to get into people’s heads and hearts.
Are you fretting endlessly over an aging parent’s sanity, a spouse’s fidelity, an adolescent’s purity, a boss’ favouritism, a sibling’s rivalry or an opponent’s schemes?
Humble faith in God is what saves us from destructive fretting over man. Amen.